i want my boyfriend to get rid of his dog

Firstly I am an animal lover. Weve kept him in a kennel before, but hes chewed on it and rammed into it with his head enough that its broken and he can break out. or live a miserable life? There is no way you need to treat an animal like that. With all due respect your familys safety is a million times more important than having to live with the odd discord of fitting in a hyper ear piercing farm animal that is unpredictably unsafe into your family home. Anyone who knows labs knows that they have two coats and shed INCESSANTLY. I have so was so hurt and mad at what she said to one of my friends. All rights reserved. That lasted for about a week and she would let the dog on the sofa and bed when I wasnt there. The experience has scarred me so much that I will never date another man with a dog. Something I think my partner can use wisely but chooses not to because he thinks him or the dog should t have to. ! Me and my partner have been together for a year, I have a small dog (puggle) and he has a large dog (Rhodesian Ridgeback) its a rescue dog. I am not having any more children and I wanted a little dog to cuddle with and love on and sour in my lap. Divorced 3 years ago and my x husband hated her bc she was in the house. He said he couldnt give up the dogs. , ..but my man dont even ask about mine either, or say he wants to visit them or anything and that makes me sad cause im alwasy over there i just dont know what to do!!!! He cant even use the bathroom w out her whining to come in. Steadfast companions when asked, doing their own thing when we needed our space. He said that I will always come before the dog and that he will try to make this work. I brought my dog to the new house. I didnt dislike the dog till after my baby was born. I am so glad that I bumped into this forum. But I guess you are right, for the life of the dog the smell will remain. Find another significant other that loves their dog, yet makes you feel special, respected, and loved as you should be treated. It use to chew anything it could get its mouth on, pee/poop in anywhere except outside, sleep in her bed (it would also pee/poop there), etcpretty much anything that, I believe, any reasonable person would be infuriated by. I can be impatient and I know this but even when I am doing my best to accommodate the Boston, he ultimately makes me want to climb up a wall. Sorry you are having these struggles too. Ive tried to love it, but the dog irritates me so much My cat sheds a small bit with excessive petting, but it is beyond manageable with regular vacuuming. This can be the reason why your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog. If I went next door and saw another woman and she gave me a good meal, I wouldnt suddenly be in love with her and tell my girlfriend its over. But dogs dont. Humans are humans and dogs are dogs. I read some of these comments and I must admit some of them are just unrealistic. Not to my boyfriend. One time I sat down and my pajama bottoms were wet. Its not that I dont like dogs, it just that I didnt sign up to basically retrain a dog that isnt mine and that I cant be in charge of setting boundaries for. I stated I would not and she leaves. IT has to sleep in our room or else IT will bark and complain. I have a pintrest board dedicated to shih tzus and golden doodles. That cant happenhe wants me to belive this lie. I told him that Ive compromised but I cant change my dogs behavior overnight. Its recommended not to let him walk off-leash and roam. If you call it barking. My husband also smells dirty like dogs because they lick him and he cuddles them all over the place. One of them is very dominant and a bully to the other one, most of the time, which can be very frustrating. If you dont it eats you up. Rebel I really feel for you. As for your other issue, this is something that will require a serious heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. He wanted a baby so hopefully he will enjoy our baby. Cat/dog hair comes with having cats/dogs. I have two dogs when I met my boyfriend (now husband). Its making me nuts and I am really starting to resent him and not want to be with him. Their dog scratches all her skin off all over the floor there are piles of flakes of skin all over the carpet and the dog gets the whole couch to stink up and chews on herself and she also has no manners she pees on the carpet when shes mad at her owners or on the floor when my boyfriends parents leave and leave my boyfriend to clean it upand she is also treated like royalty Me and my boyfriend rescued our third cat from someone who said they felt like abusing him and I remember I held the kitten in my arms and bonded with the cat so it was basically like I was its human mom ya know.. but the plan was wed keep it until we found another home for it.. and his parents didnt want to give him up so we were stuck with a third cat that they claim is my cat but yet they named him even when I already came up with a name which I thought was rude and meant that they were taking claim over the cat down the road the cat started messing on the bathroom floor everyday and meowing at our door at 5am really loud i cant stand it.. his parents wanted to keep him and no one has trained him on top of that they let their diaper cat beat up this new cat and rip his hair out which makes me feel super bad but all these misbehaving pets have ruined animals for me and i cant stand living with them im also pregnant and my boyfriend thinks im a control freak because i dont want to be around them or let them sleep in the bed. to get off of the couch to go get a treat he had for her hed say She doesnt have to, shes the queen! He hurt me deeply and there were times I absolutely hated the animal because she was the agent of my pain. when I try to teach him something I get pushed away. If the dog is unmannerly and untrained, that is what dog trainers are for. If she didnt get her way, shed start washing her private area for a very, very, long time. He gets crazy! I know we need to work on the dogs training, but I feel like it might be easier if my husband liked the dog enough to help share the responsibility of training so that we could tackle it together. So she peed all night in front of my daughters door. I read about training and raw food and Chihuahuas themselves. Now for those of you who hate dogs, or animals on general, you wont understand the bone a person can have with an animal. When Your Partner Hates Your Dog: Addressing Disputes Over Pets, Contributed by Zawn Villines, GoodTherapy.org Correspondent. Issues with an introduction: Sometimes, the issue with the introduction to other pets. I want both of my boys happy and it breaks my heart to see them hate each other. she even comes into the car for whatever we do, everytime he picks me up for anything she will be sitting in the passenger side.. i ask him does she really need to go everywhere with us but he just gets in a mood with me. H*** No! Because they are animals. The dog is to have free reign of his home, she was there for him first. That is why Im so frustrated about my situation. The constant cleaning continues but thats all we can do. Its just a coffee table. I am a nursing student so money is very tight. First off I love animals. Shes fine if its her telling his backstory, but I only have so much time in terms of making suggestions or offering to help. Luckily, for the past months has hasnt mentioned too much about them and things are going better between us thankfully. The kids, 3. Im just so overwhelmed. Hi Logan, I am living the same situation with my bf. I can only hope that your situation will improve soon mine is not any better either. If you still cannot someone, its better to interview several people and give the dog to someone you totally believe and feel comfortable with. I too will stay away from pet owners if it comes to that point again. My world fell apart, I even wrote a childrens book about him to try and cope with my grief. too much affection drives me nuts. I seriously clean for nothing. Fml. Take off your tinfoil hat Do dogs even understand what monogamy is? both he and the clat are very dependent on my wife, and the cat even more so, as he is clingy and follows her EVERYWHERE. Next life. I have a dog who is trained, loved and well behaved. im just not sure i can make it till hes no longer in the picture. When we would eat dinner shed sit with her nose at your plate. he directs his negativity at a 11 month old puppy. Friendships may be a different story in some special circumstances, but it should be a no-brainer when you love someone. She ended up being not even the breed they claimed. Animals arent playthings who can be discarded when the novelty wears off. Lots of hugsxxx. I love that little cutie. Hell cry for my SO when were trying to enjoy a movie together. I am actually married to a man who hates animals. Then she lays with him in the bed and he cuddles With her and not me. There is some anthropomorphising going on here but in the most negative and stupid way! I have a joy and it is rescue animals. I just changed my entire life for this man and dont want to lose him or my dog advice anyone ??? I also have the same issue with my cat! If youre the one who brought the pet into the relationship, be prepared to do a little extra work. If you wanna know about them in detail, please read to the end. Its the point where I find him being childish for being mad at the dog all the time, sometimes just because the dog made eye contact. Youve blown it with me. To a hotel by myself? So me and my boyfriend have been together 9 months and for the first 4 months his dog hardly ever looked our way and was a pretty unsociable dog, but recently she has been constantly following him about and coming into the bedroom and refusing to leave, shes even started sleeping in the bed now and whenever i tell him im not comfortable with it he says i hate her and im just overreacting,Its not like shed be sleeping on her own if he took her out shed be sleeping in his parents bed because thats where she slept before. I broke up with him because I saw no possible way for this to work, and I didnt want to force him to choose between me and the dog. IF there was some sort of threatening behavior, such as your ex yelling at you, being physically intimidating, etc then the behavior of the dog is acceptable. Let me get to it. An animal, is an animal. So be prepared for big power struggles when it actually comes time to you wanting something to change. Provide sufficient exercises on a daily basis. I asked him to go with me but doubt he will. I am greatful that many people think like myself and know that animals are not people. Im in the process of looking for a house and moving out now as she insists the dog is my responsibility as well and I HAVE to care for it. He jokes about what I would do if i came home one day and Nimbus (my dog) was gone. Last night, we had an argument about it because she put the dog on my pillows and then cheered him on (she thought it was funny and did as a joke per her view) and got upset because i told her she was reinforcing the idea that its ok to sleep there (which it is most def not) so then she got upset, picked up the dog and slept in the guest room with him. Every suggestion I make about boundaries or training is shut down and she gets very offended. 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